ImogenWildman53

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He sent you romantic poems and sweet nothings through text messages, daily calls, and made you fall in love with intoxicating conversations and impressive dates, only to pull away in the blink of an eye and ultimately leave. In many instances, this occurs after you had consented sex with him or when you started talking about about getting into a more committed relationship. This situation prompts you to ask, did he chase me just to have intercourse with me? Is there something wrong with me? Why is he no longer interested in me? Was commitment ever in his mind?

Why men pull away?

Men have this inherent need to look for the rush and excitment of being faced with a challenge which is the reason they are interested in vigorous sports, violent movies, and cut-throat video games. This same behavior applies to dating - they endeavor to gain your affection, or at least have you sleep with him. The thing is, men really like the chase, this means, if you show that you’re fully into him, and you’ve agreed to make love to him very early on in your relationship, the challenge for him is over and in many instances would look elsewhere to fulfill this need.

Some guys distance themselves because they feel that the emotional attachment is burdensome to them. Case in point, if a woman becomes overly clingy, he finds the relationship emotionally and physically energy-consuming, which prompts him to find other activities or ladies where he can have more freedom.

Another reason why men pull away is that they feel threatened when you ask him to commit to a serious relationship. This is because by doing this you are effectively telling him to stop searching for challenges which to him is a direct threat to his manliness.

How to make him commit

For starters, don’t give all of yourself early on in the relationship. Make him have genuine attraction to you. Furthermore, don’t give him an ultimatum. Doing this will be a red flag for him and will make him less interested. If you would like a man to commit, make him like to do so by associating pleasure with commitment. Flirt with him, make him go after you, and reward him from time to time to keep him inspired, and by reward, it need not be through sex at all times. Men enjoy challenges and competition, so use this to your benefit.

If even with your efforts he still chooses to walk away, don’t blame yourself for everything. That simply shows he is truly not interested, and that is one man you don’t want to end up getting married to.