Thanksgiving Day Memories

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It really is Thanksgiving morning, 2007, and before I commence wailing about what is not right in my life, I think I must give thanks for what is correct. First of all, of course, would be my husband, youngsters and their kids, without whom life would be empty for me. I frequently assume how sad it would be, to be alone in this world. Then I believed back to the days when my kids were finally giving me some long-awaited grandchildren. That, I hoped, guaranteed I'd have small ones around for a lot of years to give me lots of love and hugs. I thought back to my pressure-cost-free feelings at that time

Grandchildren have a way of bringing life back into our lives. Mine do all fifteen of them. In a planet of so several lonely men and women, I really feel blessed that my life is filled with happy, energetic progeny all so various, but defined by drops of my DNA. I usually appear at them with utter amazement that from my genes (okay, perhaps a few other individuals) these rarefied beings sprang forth.

When our children get married, how we yearn for that 1st grandchild. How we appear with envy (and secretly dislike) our pals who created the Big G ahead of we did. These mean-spirited grandmothers who whip out strings of pictures as extended as a football field how they drone on and on about their Mensa Club-intellect grandchildren, and prattle on about the little cherub's accomplishments, ad nauseam.

But, oh, when ours do come along, it is so different. No grandchild has ever been as stunning at birth, as attentive and wide-eyed even the birth weight and length grow to be things to crow about. All of a sudden we're sporting a backpack stuffed with photos in every single conceivable pose identified to man.

But, aside from this constant want to push photos of our grandchild into our friend's faces, there is one thing else grandmothers have in frequent. After interviewing several women on the feelings they skilled at their grandchild's birth, the final consensus was this: we all had an overwhelming emotional pull, but also a feeling of total stress-free of charge contentment.

Did we really feel this exact same emotional pull when our youngsters were born? Effectively, if we did it was smothered under anxiety and the worry of what to do with this baby when the nurse told us to get up so somebody else could occupy the bed.

I assume I've come up with a sensible answer for this tension. As young mothers giving birth, we came face to face with this small blob of protoplasm and had no clue exactly where to begin. They may well as nicely have put a blindfold over our eyes when they handed us this warm, stuffed blanket and wheeled us toward the hospital exit: "Goodbye. Very good Luck!"

However, babies don't come with How-To books. There is no user's manual with directions on operating this howling little individual. No tag dangling from a tiny pink toe with instructions on care.

Now enter the grandmother. Right here is this same tiny blob of protoplasm, only now it doesn't fall on grandma's shoulders to see that this youngster survives, walks, talks, eats, sleeps, matures into a ideal citizen, and is socially acceptable. We leave the hospital after going to hours full of emotion, complete of adore, but totally free of anxiety.

As the child grows from infant to toddler, we hold them close to inhale their milky-moist breath, search their faces for any resemblance of our personal children, ourselves, our DNA. And it is totally tension-totally free. We get to love them, cuddle them, spoil them, and then send them property to the responsible party from whence they came.

At the end of a go to, how we hate to give up these soft, valuable creations of God. We can taste their hello and goodbye kisses long immediately after they've delivered them. How we appear forward with such anticipation to see them again. We permit them to do issues we by no means allowed our personal youngsters to get away with, which is pointed out to us by our young children on a regular basis.

And, if this youngster develops traits not to our liking, properly, of course we are duty-bound to tell their parents how we would have handled that in our day.

But, alas, youngsters grow. And, we are only humans albeit older humans. I doubt there's a grandparent who will ever admit to this, but immediately after a weekend of running right after the precious tiny toddlers, tripping over their toys, watching our spotless homes fill with smudges, drips and scuffs, the inimitable words of the late Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind as the taillights disappear down the street: "Free at final, free of charge at final. . ."

Rapidly-forward a couple of years, and guess who requires credit for all the grandchildren's accomplishments? Of course we do. Where else would that child have inherited that porcelain skin, that thick head of hair, that high I.Q.?

Quick-forward once more. As we age, so do our grandchildren. But our adore is unflagging. Now it seems there is scarcely any time for grandma. But we know we can catch a peek at them on a baseball diamond, soccer field, or class play, if only just to crow to the stranger sitting next to us "...that is my grandchild!"

Next in this voyage to adulthood comes the dating game. Grandma Who? We may get calls every now and then asking if they can drop by to show us a new prom dress or a tux, their school website video production company images or report cards. Can we sew up a quickie small item for a school play or dance class? it won't take extended, Grammy. Or, "ah Grams, got any further bread?" As I head for the kitchen it dawns on me oh, that type of bread then I head for my purse.

I had an eye-opener on how one particular of my grandchildren views me: I was attending a ball game exactly where my youngest grandson was playing. At the finish of the game he came running up to me oozing sweat and smiles. "Grams, did you see the great throws I produced? Did you see my property runs?"

"I did, honey. You had been excellent. Are you going to hold playing baseball?"

"Heck yeah," he answered, with out hesitation. "When I'm older I am gonna play Pro ball."

I was most impressed. "How amazing," I said. "You know specialist ballplayers make a lot of income. You can take care of Grams in my old age."

He believed about that for a second, looked me straight in the eye and replied, "But Grams, you are currently old and I'm only eight!"

Oh, all right, possibly I'll have to depend on some of my older grandchildren to support me in my dotage. But, I thank God daily that I have them to depend on for anxiety-free of charge adore.