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He sent you romantic text messages, daily calls, and made you fall for him with stimulating conversations and fascinating dates, only to pull away in the blink of an eye and completely go away. In many instances, this occurs after you had intercourse or when you started discussing about entering into a deeper relationship. This situation causes you to ask, did he chase me just to have intercourse with me? Is there something in my personality or body that made him less attracted with me? Why is he no longer interested in me? Was committing to a long term relationship ever in his mind?

Reasons why guys pull away

Men are hardwired to seek the thrill of being confronted with a challenge which is the reason they have this penchant for challenging sports, violent movies, and competitive video games. This same behavior is also seen in dating - they try to win your affection, or at least have you make love to him. The truth is, men love the chase, this means, if you demonstrate that you’re fully into him, and you’ve consented to sleep with him very early on in your relationship, the pursuit for him is over and would most likely look elsewhere to satisfy this need.

A number of guys suddenly become less interested in the relationship because they are convinced that the emotional attachment is a burden to them. For example, if a girl becomes overly needy, he finds the relationship emotionally and physically exhaustive, which causes him to find other pursuits or ladies where he can enjoy his freedom more.

One more reason why men pull away is that they feel uneasy when you demand that he commit to a much deeper relationship. This is because by doing this you are effectively telling him to stop searching for challenges which to him is a direct threat to his manliness.

How to make him stay longer in the relationship

For starters, don’t give all of yourself early on in the relationship. Make him truly fall for you. Additionally, avoid giving him an ultimatum to commit to you. Asking him to commit to you exclusively earlier on in the relationship will be a red flag for him and will make him pull away. If you want your boyfriend to commit, make him wish to do so by associating satisfaction with commitment. Tease him, make him go after you, and reward him from time to time to keep him driven, and by reward, it need not be through sex at all times. Guys enjoy challenges and competition, so use this to make them want you more.For more information on relationships please visit this link.

If in spite of your efforts he still pulls away, don’t blame yourself for everything. That just shows he is truly not interested, and that is one person you don’t want to end up marrying.