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What you could Learn from Kim Kardashian

I understand. You're rolling your vision and going "puhleeeez, Kim, forget about tabloid fodder!", yes? Well, you may already know, I'm all about conscious relating and sometimes the interest given to celebrities making really bad mistakes can become excellent teaching points for which NOT to do.

And, this would be the case using the recent news of Kim Kardashian and her "72 day" marriage.

I think we can all agree both of these were possibly doomed from the beginning. All the pieces were in position; media hungry couple, money at stake, sponsors they committed to and, perhaps, more in love with the wedding they were with one another.

Whenever you remove the cash, the cameras and their high profile status, this couple's situation is not unlike regular, every day couples I've coached or met.

I've observed plenty of couples who became embroiled within the fantasy of a wedding and rush into something which , deep-down, they knew wasn't right. Every single day I consult with ladies who admit they've ignored "red flags" and warning signs - along with a surprising number who knew because they walked on the aisle these were making the largest mistake of the life. 

Once those invitations are sent, wedding dress ordered and church booked it becomes increasingly more difficult to back out - pressure is on.


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1. Slow Down
If you're in your 30's, you most likely have one eye in your career and the other in your biological clock. When you are within this place, marriage can feel like a race. The only place a "high speed connection" is appropriate is by using your computer, not with a man. My recommended timeline for courtship is as follows:

        Wait at least Two months before you decide to sleep together
        Let your brand-new partner know no after A few months your goal is marriage
        Be in relationship for at least 1 year before marriage

2. Deal Breakers
Much like couples who avoid issues by putting attention on their kids, planning for a wedding works in a similar way. It sweeps issues under the carpet as the focus shifts to preparing for the big day. If your values and what's important to you do not align now, they won't in the future. Know what your deal breakers are Prior to committing.

3. Nerves vs. Red Flag
Nervous excitement feels as though fun butterflies inside your stomach. Creating a big mistake is leaden with an uncertainty that will not disappear - that's a red flag. If that's you, then it's time for you to step back, get perspective and, if necessary, possess a really open conversation with your mate.

Knowing you're about to walk down the aisle with the wrong man, go ahead and possess the courage to end it. It may produce a little bit of drama but, let's face it, the folks you invited for your wedding are the ones you like probably the most - and your happiness is far more vital that you them then a free piece of wedding cake. Flights could be re-booked, flowers cancelled and you will feel great knowing you simply saved your duration of unhappiness.